Saying “I Do” at LAU
It is hard to miss her skintight pants, high heels and flashy BlackBerry. Sarah, as she asked to be called, is a common sight at LAU and other university campuses in Beirut.
“I transferred here a while back,” she said. “I don’t care about what I major in, I just want a degree.”
Sarah said that she is happy at LAU but her parents do not share her joy. “My mother is always telling me I should find ‘ibn il-halal’ [the right man] before graduating,” she said.
Sarah claimed that she has been proposed to, formally and informally, at least a dozen times.
Recent studies have shown an increase in the number of women continuing their education. The Institute for Women’s Studies in the Arab World reported that 6141 women have graduated from LAU from the years 1924 till 1978. “[Women] came from neighboring nations to study here,” Anita Nassar of the IWSAW said.
“My mother always reminds me to finish my education in case my husband dies or abandons me,” Darine, an English major said. “I want to make sure I’ll be well off without him.”
Khaled Nasser, doctor of interpersonal communication, explained that education in this context is a social necessity for women as it helps them protect themselves against all odds. A degree helps women stand on their own in case something happens to their husbands, he said. At the same time, education may help women get the better husbands.
“I’ve been engaged twice in the past five years,” Rima, a recent LAU graduate, said. “I met both of my ex-es on campus.”
Rima recently started her own business in Beirut. “I make my own money, and I don’t plan on getting married anytime soon,” she confidently said. “My family insists on me to get married, I plan on marrying a naa’nou’ (someone weak).”
Walaa Tabaja, a business student, met her husband at LAU. “He’s awesome,” she exclaimed. ”He [her husband] wants me to continue my education and get my masters.”
Tabaja’s parents approved of her getting married on the condition she finishes her degree. She and her husband take education very seriously and will enter the business world together. “Most girls don’t,” she asserted.
Sitting confidently on campus, Sarah still lurks behind her cigarette smoke. With her trusty ‘BB’ in the other hand, she waits for potential suitors. “Until I say I do, you can look but you can’t touch,” she smiled.